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How to align to your soul

For your life to be fulfilling, you must align to your soul. Your soul is the divine essence of you, the part of you that was never born, never dies and is eternal. It is more powerful than you can comprehend. The soul is made up of the spirit (which is intangible) and the material (which is tangible). It is the fabric that represents us. Every soul has a purpose and a mission, and it ultimately runs the show. The sooner we accept that, the better our life will be. We are just visitors passing through, and when we align to what our soul wants, we will know happiness and fulfilment. If we continually ignore what our soul wants, happiness and fulfilment evade us. So how do we align to our soul and know what it wants?

Follow your bliss. Whatever gives you a feeling of inspiration and excitement will be soul-aligned – creative pursuits, being in nature, travel – these things will be unique to you. Joseph Campbell told us “Follow your bliss, and doors will open where once there were walls.”

Become present. Stop whatever you are doing on a regular basis and breathe. Notice what is going on around you without labelling it or creating a story in your mind about it.

Meditate. Connection to soul is most easily sourced from going within, but it’s not the only way. I highly recommend the free meditation app Insight Timer which has some wonderful guided meditations and mindfulness meditations. 

Read about personal growth and spirituality, The more you learn about spiritual growth and truth, the more you are able to perceive things from the soul’s perspective. If you’re not sure where to start, here are some books (which are not recent publications but were best sellers for a reason) which I highly recommend:

You Can Heal Your Life – Louise Hay

The Power is Within You – Louise Hay

The Four Agreements – Don Miguel Ruiz

The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success – Deepak Chopra

A Return to Love – Marianne Williamson

A New Earth – Eckhart Tolle

Soul Contracts – Carolyn Myss

There are so many great books out there, but these are a good start and many are available as audiobooks.

Slow down. Go at nature’s pace or God’s pace. Nature doesn’t rush. By slowing down and bringing mindful awareness into all that we do, we create spaciousness and presence. When we are fully conscious in the now, we ARE soul aligned. St. Francis of Assisi wanted to live amongst nature and he told his congregations that if they wanted to be happy and find peace, to slow down. So much of what we do and try and pack into a day is non-essential. Much of what we spend our money on is also non-essential. Life is much richer when we slow down. If you’re doing a chore like the washing up, slow down, enjoy it! In most tasks, like Mary Poppins tells us, there is an element of fun. Time means nothing to the soul because it’s eternal. The soul transcends time. The ego says “I must meet this deadline or I won’t get paid”. The soul says “I am always supported and looked after. I’ll do that when I’m feeling inclined to do it.” Soul-based decisions ALWAYS work out well. Ego-based decisions just create more speed and stress.

Become aware of your heart. The portal to the soul is the open heart. We are meant to follow our hearts and not our minds! The mind is great at sorting out the small stuff like doing sums, making lists and sorting. The big decisions in life need to be heart decisions. When we follow our hearts, we align to our soul, because the heart always chooses love. The heart will choose a job it loves, it will choose people it loves, it will want to do the things that make you feel good. Heart decisions come from FEELING not THINKING.

Source beauty. Wherever you see beauty, give thanks. The soul loves beauty. Spend time in nature and in beautiful places. We all have our idea of what is beautiful. I love spending time in art galleries, in gardens, in museums looking at beautiful old artefacts, reading poetry, hugging trees and painting. Make beautiful things, have a cup of tea in a fine china cup, make a meal and set the table to look beautiful with table cloth, candles and flowers. Go on holidays to somewhere beautiful. The soul is fed by beauty. Have you ever noticed that when you’re working a lot and haven’t had time to see or be in beauty, how flat, tired and even depressed you become? That’s because the soul needs attention.

Get in touch with your inner child. Your inner child (as opposed to your wounded child) is a loving, playful, light-hearted, free little being. Remember when you were a child and all the things you loved to do. What gave you joy? In what ways were you playful? In what ways were you creative? What were your favourite activities? Chances are that these activities will still bring you joy and have something to do with your soul’s purpose and expression.

Make a list of your favourite things – like the Sound of Music song, become aware of the things you love. They may not be doorbells and sleigh bells and schnitzel with noodles, but by writing as much as you can, you will be delving deep into your soul and chances are that the first few things that you write and the last few things that you write will be the things that make your soul feel alive and aligned. I suggest 100 things because it forces you to really excavate yourself and go deep. The more you give your soul the things it loves, the stronger its presence becomes and the more connected you will feel to it.

Surrender more, do less. Most of us are so conditioned to “doing” and action-oriented activities, that we’ve forgotten how NOT “to do”. The ego thinks it has to be constantly busy, not trusting that the Universe is supportive. Our minds complicate things and makes them harder than they need to be. We fill our diaries with activities, disallowing space to just be. We rush in to fix things, instead of just allowing them to be and allowing time to contemplate what to do next. And sometimes we just need to let things be. The old saying “When in doubt, don’t” is a good one.

The more you do these things (or DON’T do, as the case may be!) the more you activate the relationship with your soul, and the more you will be directed by it. Sometimes the direction you get won’t make any common sense at all. That’s because the soul, in its infinite intelligence, doesn’t operate through common sense. The soul is connected to your Divine Blueprint (the divine plan for your life) and knows far more than your mind does. And that is why soul choices, even if they don’t make any sense at the time, always work out, ultimately for your highest good.

“My Soul is my guide, for my soul is of that abode. I will not speak of the earthly. I am of the Unknown.” – Rumi.


How the Supermoon may be affecting you

This current full moon is a Supermoon – when the moon is full and is closest to the Earth. In a nutshell, here are the ways you may be being affected:

Feeling highly emotional – full moons can bring to the surface our repressed emotions. If you are feeling emotional – sad, angry, frustrated, hopeless – whatever feeling comes up, embrace the feeling. It’s coming up to be healed, and you can heal it through accepting the feeling and truly feeling it. You’ve got to feel it to heal it!

Feelings of sadness or hopelessness- during a full moon we may feel sad or disappointed about the things we do not have or haven’t happened for us yet. Again, embrace the feeling. Do not judge or beat yourself up.

Old beliefs and patterns becoming more intensified – wherever we are stuck, the situation will become more intensified. This is so that we pay attention. No longer can we ignore it. We are being pushed to transform.

Loss or letting go – we may experience a loss of some kind or have to let go of something. Every transformation begins with a loss. It may be a person, a job, a thing. Or it may be a belief that is no longer serving us. We have to lose something to make room for the new.

Insights – pay attention to your dreams, and to any messages (signs, songs on the radio, inner messages). A full moon can bring inner revelation. For example, I had a mega-revelation yesterday that a particular pattern I am playing out with my son is the same pattern I played out with my mother when I was a child. These insights can be very healing and give us clarity.

Revelation – something may be revealed to us, such as a secret or someone else’s hidden agenda. Things are always revealed to us in divine and perfect timing. Even if the news is bad, accept that it is what it is and that you are meant to know about it, so that you can do something about it.

Inspiration and creativity – moon energy is feminine and creative. Divine inspiration and creativity can flow through us easily at this time. Pay attention to any ideas that come through, and if you are working on a creative project, you will find your creativity flows beautifully right now.

Aligning to purpose – you may feel the desire to do something that is aligned with your soul’s purpose. If this is happening for you, heed the call. This doesn’t mean that you give up your day job – but take a step towards doing what you really want to do. Look into courses and talk to people who may be able to help you.

You can embrace this Supermoon energy by meditating – preferably in the moonlight! Or take a mindful walk in the moonlight, observing without labelling. You could even have a moon bathe! Embrace your feminine “Goddess” energy at this time and enjoy the beautiful silver moon – it is there for your healing. And if you have crystals, give them a cleanse under the supermoon tonight!

The Ego Mind Vs the True Self

Most of us live in a bipolar state and I don’t mean bipolar disorder. We live between two polarities – the Ego Mind and the True Self. You may have heard me say before, that the human race is experiencing an evolution. The more we embrace this evolution by being willing to grow and become present, the more we will be living as our True Self. Nothing happens overnight however, unless we are lucky enough to be struck by the wand of enlightenment in our sleep – and it does happen for some, such as Eckhart Tolle (after much suffering may I add). However most of us will be dipping in and out of our True Self. Sometimes our Ego Mind will dominate and sometimes our True Self will be in charge, and that’s OK and normal. This is where awareness is very valuable.

What is the difference between the ego mind and the True Self?

Our ego mind is our false self – the conditioned self – who is not in touch with who we really are. It feeds on the vibration of fear and lives through a paradigm of Win/Lose (I win and therefore you must lose – also known as competition). When we are in ego we will feel contracted and small and “all alone”, and so we seek POWER. Ego power can feel good and it’s very addictive. Think of times when someone has hurt you and you seek to “get your own back”. It can feel wonderful at the time, but the good effect is short-lived, and often regretted.

The ego mind can also be needy. It does not want to lose anything and so it clings to people, places and situations. When we are in our ego mind, we will be dominated by the emotions of envy, jealousy, guilt, anger, resentment and other toxic emotions as well as loneliness. We can also experience feel-good emotions – excitement, elation and ecstasy, but these never last. When they go, we drop down to the same disconnected, lonely feeling that existed before, which can feel devastating. So the ego mind will have us experiencing an emotional rollercoaster of ups and downs. The ego doesn’t like to feel bad and so it looks for quick-fixes and is the basis of all addictions. The ego worries about what other people think of us and acts from an outside point of view as opposed to being self-directed, and just as it fears judgment; it also judges others, creating separation, loneliness and isolation.

We can easily be tricked by the ego mind – convincing us that revenge is justified, that our judgments of others are realistic, that our greed is just a healthy desire and that extreme vanity is an expression of beauty. The ego mind gets overly attached to outcomes and to expectations, and can feel angry or disappointed when things don’t turn out as expected or hoped for. It fills our mind with “random inner dialogue”, a lot of it negative, and much of it pointless.

So to sum it up, the ego mind is insecure and keeps us in perpetual misery!

By contrast, the True Self is who we really are and is connected to the All That Is. It is always in the vibration of love. It operates through the paradigm of Win/Win (I gain and you gain – also known as co-operation). When we are living as our True Self, we feel a sense of expansion and we know that we are significant but not in an egotistical way – this feeling is quietly powerful, humble and connected. While we may experience negative emotions and thoughts, these take place at a more superficial level because underlying these emotions is a foundation of love and a state of awareness that we are not our emotions or our thoughts. We are something far greater.

When we are operating from our True Self, we experience a state of neutrality most of the time – a feeling of inner peace and serenity – while the movie of life plays out just as it may when we are in our ego mind, but we are not “in it” like we are when we are our ego mind. It is simply a movie and we don’t have to step aboard the roller-coaster of thoughts and emotions that the ego mind would choose. The True Self knows that in life, things are forever changing – people, places and situations come and go, sometimes we get what we want and sometimes we don’t – but it makes no real difference to our sense of inner peace. This is true personal power! And it is the basis of true happiness.

What is true happiness?

There are a lot of books out there on happiness. True happiness is the state of inner peace and serenity. Some of us don’t recognise that this is happiness – so conditioned are we that we think happiness is excitement, elation and ecstasy – but these emotions are always short-lived. As human beings, we do not have the energy to sustain such a state of being for that long. What comes up must come down. The more we seek thrills, the more depression and despair we also experience. Our lives will certainly include moments of peak experiences, but the more in touch with our True Self we are, the more we do not identify with the thrill. We can enjoy it for what it is, but not cling to it, or hope that it will last, or take it too seriously, knowing that “this too shall pass”.

How can we begin to connect more with our True Self?

We can only start this journey to the True Self from where we are today. There are no shortcuts. We need to fully embrace who we are right now – we don’t get anywhere by denying our ego. The only way to transcend the ego mind is by:

  1. Bringing AWARENESS to it
  2. Realising there is a SPACE between the ego mind’s desire and our action
  3. Choosing to transcend the ego’s desires with the vibration of LOVE.

Asking the question “What would love do now?” is a powerful question.

Here are further ways of becoming present and getting more in touch with your True Self :

  • Practise presence and observation – Whenever you can, become aware of the present moment – right here, right now – and simply observe it. Simply observe without thought. Set an alarm on your phone two or three times a day, or put a few signs around your home or work space with the word PRESENCE or NOW to remind you to make contact with the present moment right now.
  • Meditate – Sitting with yourself and observing your thoughts, emotions, agitations and distractions is a highly effective way to become self-aware.
  • Pay attention to your breath – This is a great way to become more present. Again, if you’re new to this, set an alarm on your phone two or three times daily to practise.
  • Feel your body – The body is not the busy ego-mind. Feeling the inside of our body brings awareness. The body is constantly talking to you, telling you the truth. When you connect in with your body, you disconnect from your busy ego-mind.
  • Observe nature – Simply by sitting and observing nature, you are connecting in with the Universal Source.
  • Yoga/exercise – Undertake exercise in a self-observant way. Notice your breath, feel your bodily sensations, observe your thoughts. Stay present.
  • Do something you love or do something creative – When you are fully engaged in a create activity that you enjoy, you can feel totally present and connected, and the ego mind falls away. Paint, write, build, decorate, sew, knit, garden, colour-in, play – whatever gives you joy creatively, make some time to do it.

Learn to Be Yourself

We are all unique and have a special purpose. We must stop comparing ourselves to others and honour our own uniqueness. Healer and author Catherine Wilkinson refers to the True Self as Spiritual Purity and has this to say:

”There is only one pure thing that you can be – and that is a pure you.

When something is pure, it has a strength and an effect it could not otherwise have. Think about a laser. A laser is a very pure form of light – so pure that it consists of just one frequency. This purity gives it extraordinary power. A laser can travel for miles in a straight line. It can vaporise tissue and cut through metal. Ordinary light such as torch light cannot do these things. Ordinary light is not pure; it is many things.

When you are “pure you” do not expect to have the same effect on others that another person might have. Your individual nature is different from theirs. How you affect people is a result of your individual nature. The important thing is to become you. Just you. The real you.

Every time you take on the goals, attitudes, thoughts, dreams, feelings or expression of another person, you risk diluting your purity. You will no longer be 100% you. You may become 78% you, or 45%. Some people have almost entirely lost touch with their True Self. They have so overloaded themselves with the expectations and thoughts of others that only a little of them remains, perhaps only 3%. Such people live lives of quiet desperation and their bio-magnetic field (aura) is extremely weak.”

So begin to spend quality time with yourself and listen to yourself! Become aware of how much you take on other people’s energy and beliefs. Your True Self already knows what you want and what will make you happy. Honour those things. Steve Jobs said:

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary”

So begin taking the first step in knowing YOU, and enjoy the journey. Forget about the destination – or rather, detach from the destination – which is your vision, your goal. It will happen in good time if you believe in it and you trust. BUT all the fun takes place along the journey. Just ask Dorothy, Alice, Gulliver or any other main protagonist in any story. The end of the book isn’t nearly as good as what takes place in those middle pages.