How to align to your soul

02 October 2018

For your life to be fulfilling, you must align to your soul. Your soul is the divine essence of you, the  part of you that was never born, never dies and is eternal. It is more powerful than you can comprehend. The soul is made up of the spirit (which is intangible) and the material (which is tangible). It is the fabric that represents us.
Every soul has a purpose and a mission, and it ultimately runs the show. The sooner we accept that, the better our life will be. We are just visitors passing through, and when we align to what our soul wants, we will know happiness and fulfilment. If we continually ignore what our soul wants, happiness and fulfilment evade us. So how do we align to our soul and know what it wants?

Follow your bliss

Whatever gives you a feeling of inspiration and excitement will be soul-aligned – creative pursuits, being in nature, travel – these things will be unique to you. Joseph Campbell told us “Follow your bliss, and doors will open where once there were walls.”

Become present.

Stop whatever you are doing on a regular basis and breathe. Notice what is going on around you without labelling it or creating a story in your mind about it.


Connection to soul is most easily sourced from going within, but it’s not the only way. I highly recommend the free meditation app Insight Timer which has some wonderful guided meditations and mindfulness meditations.

Read about personal growth and spirituality

The more you learn about spiritual growth and truth, the more you are able to perceive things from the soul’s perspective. If you’re not sure where to start, here are some books (which are not recent publications but were best sellers for a reason) which I highly recommend:

  • You Can Heal Your Life – Louise Hay
  • The Power is Within You – Louise Hay
  • The Four Agreements – Don Miguel Ruiz
  • The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success – Deepak Chopra
  • A Return to Love – Marianne Williamson
  • A New Earth – Eckhart Tolle
  • Soul Contracts – Carolyn Myss

There are so many great books out there, but these are a good start and many are available as audiobooks.

Slow down

Go at nature’s pace or God’s pace. Nature doesn’t rush. By slowing down and bringing mindful awareness into all that we do, we create spaciousness and presence. When we are fully conscious in the now, we ARE soul aligned. St. Francis of Assisi wanted to live amongst nature and he told his congregations that if they wanted to be happy and find peace, to slow down. So much of what we do and try and pack into a day is non-essential. Much of what we spend our money on is also non-essential. Life is much richer when we slow down.
If you’re doing a chore like the washing up, slow down, enjoy it! In most tasks, like Mary Poppins tells us, there is an element of fun.
Time means nothing to the soul because it’s eternal. The soul transcends time. The ego says “I must meet this deadline or I won’t get paid”. The soul says “I am always supported and looked after. I’ll do that when I’m feeling inclined to do it.” Soul-based decisions ALWAYS work out well. Ego-based decisions just create more speed and stress.

Become aware of your heart.

The portal to the soul is the open heart. We are meant to follow our hearts and not our minds! The mind is great at sorting out the small stuff like doing sums, making lists and sorting. The big decisions in life need to be heart decisions. When we follow our hearts, we align to our soul, because the heart always chooses love. The heart will choose a job it loves, it will choose people it loves, it will want to do the things that make you feel good. Heart decisions come from FEELING not THINKING.

Source beauty

Wherever you see beauty, give thanks. The soul loves beauty. Spend time in nature and in beautiful places. We all have our idea of what is beautiful. I love spending time in art galleries, in gardens, in museums looking at beautiful old artefacts, reading poetry, hugging trees and painting. Make beautiful things, have a cup of tea in a fine china cup, make a meal and set the table to look beautiful with table cloth, candles and flowers. Go on holidays to somewhere beautiful. The soul is fed by beauty. Have you ever noticed that when you’re working a lot and haven’t had time to see or be in beauty, how flat, tired and even depressed you become? That’s because the soul needs attention.

Get in touch with your inner child.

Your inner child (as opposed to your wounded child) is a loving, playful, light-hearted, free little being. Remember when you were a child and all the things you loved to do. What gave you joy? In what ways were you playful? In what ways were you creative? What were your favourite activities? Chances are that these activities will still bring you joy and have something to do with your soul’s purpose and expression.

Make a list of your favourite things

Like the Sound of Music song, become aware of the things you love. They may not be doorbells and sleigh bells and schnitzel with noodles, but by writing as much as you can, you will be delving deep into your soul and chances are that the first few things that you write and the last few things that you write will be the things that make your soul feel alive and aligned. I suggest 100 things because it forces you to really excavate yourself and go deep. The more you give your soul the things it loves, the stronger its presence becomes and the more connected you will feel to it.

Surrender more, do less.

Most of us are so conditioned to “doing” and action-oriented activities, that we’ve forgotten how NOT “to do”. The ego thinks it has to be constantly busy, not trusting that the Universe is supportive. Our minds complicate things and makes them harder than they need to be. We fill our diaries with activities, disallowing space to just be. We rush in to fix things, instead of just allowing them to be and allowing time to contemplate what to do next. And sometimes we just need to let things be. The old saying “When in doubt, don’t” is a good one.

The more you do these things (or DON’T do, as the case may be!) the more you activate the relationship with your soul, and the more you will be directed by it. Sometimes the direction you get won’t make any common sense at all. That’s because the soul, in its infinite intelligence, doesn’t operate through common sense. The soul is connected to your Divine Blueprint (the divine plan for your life) and knows far more than your mind does. And that is why soul choices, even if they don’t make any sense at the time, always work out, ultimately for your highest good.

“My Soul is my guide, for my soul is of that abode. I will not speak of the earthly. I am of the Unknown.” – Rumi.

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